An Intro to Toxi's Blog

​I woke up one day and the reality of being almost 40 and newly single hit me.  I had been married over 15 years and was definitely out of practice (Unfortunately my fantasies of a Mark Paul Gosselaar fling didn't count as dating).  The thought of dating was both scary and exciting.  My ultimate goal was to meet new people and not end up being the subject of a Lifetime movie about encountering your killer on Craigslist.  At this moment my personal life lessons were born. 

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Life Lesson #1
​Be cautious enough to avoid becoming the subject of a Lifetime movie. 

Although this lesson is learning in progress, I've done pretty well thus far.

I'm super cautious, overly to an extent.  But I'll discuss it throughout this blog.  Despite my hesitations, I have enjoyed dating.  I'm typically a private person when it comes to this subject.  I speak in generalities on our show unless I have a guy's permission prior.  This has made things interesting.  I find there are two very defined sides and no middle ground.  There are guys who ABSOLUTELY do not want to be referred to on the show and others who ask immediately if I plan to talk about them.  I'm pretty sure this blog will not alleviate any concerns for those who have who are worried.  I will continue, as always, to keep names private.

So I have these great dating stories which I don't share on air and now it's time. 

Life Lesson #2
​The best stories need to be shared.  Let people learn from you and take the opportunity to learn from yourself.  Share in your joy, share in your pain...just share.

This philosophy was how our show came about.  The original hosts had some amazing dating stories.  When I first joined I was the married one.  My fun stories involved jaeger, my ex leaving the toilet seat up and failed threesomes.

Now is my chance to catch up.  Enjoy!

xo T